We
have lost someone we love dearly; the good news
is that we can turn within our hearts and find
Mary Louise, closer than before. We can say
those things that perhaps we hesitated to say.
It is a gift to be able to communicate in this
deeper way. We can ask her to help us; that's
good news.
The best news is that in
faith, we know that Mary Louise's suffering is
over. Her mental anguish, her "dark night
of the soul," has ended. She no longer
fears death, and the unknown. Now she truly
experiences and knows the truth of God's special
love for her. She rests in the peace of God's
forgiveness, rejoices in God's compassion. That
is the good news we all look forward to,
complete awareness of God's goodness to us.
The Church prays- "Look
with favor on us that we may dwell with you
forever." That prayer is answered for Mary
Louise as God says, "I will look with favor
on all who are faithful, that they may dwell
with me." (Ps 101) I can hear Mary Louise
say, "With contrite heart and humble spirit
let us be received… and now we follow you with
our whole heart." (Dan. 3) "Before the
first rays of dawn, I come to you."
The
prophet Isaiah says, "God will destroy the
veil that veils all peoples." The veils of
fear and anxiety have been removed so that Mary
Louise now sees God clearly. While on earth she
thought so clearly and was very articulate in
expressing what she understood. Now she sees
what is essential- God's inexpressible love for
her. Isaiah says, God "will destroy death
forever." And so she is prepared to enjoy
eternal life far more than anything left behind
on this earth. "The Lord will wipe away the
tears from all faces." Eventually we come
to realize that we may be sad for ourselves, and
we become grateful because Mary Louise enjoys
the peace she has always longed for. She
comforts us with these words of the psalmist,
"I was helpless, and so God saved me."
In
the letter to the Hebrews St. Paul reminds us
that Jesus has the power to "free those who
through fear of death have been subject to
slavery all their life." Mary Louise is
indeed freed from the slavery of fear. Her
"life is changed, not ended." What a
wonderful surprise when we find a life far
better than what we left behind! Now Mary
Louise, in God's company, enjoys the wonderful
gift that God has always had in store for her.
Now she sees God, as God really is.
Mary Louise's last months on
earth held many trials-- physical illnesses,
anxiety, the desire to return to her room where
she could have the things she needed, and
probably other difficulties we know nothing
about. And yet God granted her many gifts--
excellent care, physical healing, improvement in
her mobility, patience, love, and encouragement
from her family and her Dominican sisters; she
found gratitude for those who were kind to her,
a certain joyful spirit, a peaceful heart, and
apparently the gift of an easy death. It is said
that a joyful spirit is a sign of God's presence
in us. In her last days Mary Louise seemed to
exude a sense of peace and joy.
Mary Louise remains part of
our lives. We can keep her memory alive by the
stories we share. We can ask her to intercede
for us in God's presence, enjoying all that she
ever hoped for. God of merciful love, prepare a
place for us that we too may one day find our
complete joy in you. With her we pray,
"Lord, keep me from shame for I have called
to you. Let your face shine on your servant;
save me by your love."
We sisters have a custom: when
we take our final vows we receive a gold ring
and each sister selects an inscription to be
engraved in the ring. Mary Louise's inscription
is "Ad Jesum per Mariam," to
Jesus through Mary. When a sister is dying we
gather around her and sing the Salve Regina--
the “Hail Holy Queen.” Sr. Mary Veronica and
I sang the Salve for her in the hospital.
"Turn then, most gracious advocate, your
eyes of mercy toward us and after this our
exile, show to us the blessed fruit of your
womb, Jesus."
-- from the eulogy by Sr.
Angeline Magro, O.P., Prioress
Mary Louise ("Sr. M. de
Ricci" until she returned to her baptismal
name) was the only daughter of her parents.
Baptized in St. Anthony's Parish, she had from
childhood the spiritual care of Dominican friars
from Spain. She attended St. Mary's Dominican
High School and College, earned a B.A. from
Loyola, and a Ph.D. from Catholic University.
She excelled in teaching, writing, and many
other endeavors. She was devoted to her nephews
and family, as they were to her. She was a vital
member of her religious community, St. Mary's.